Comparison–Crushed By “Not Enough”
I looked around the room at the talented and beautiful women and I knew immediately I’m not enough. Not only was I not enough, but I don’t have enough. I don’t have enough time or enough resources to do what they’re doing. And since we’re talking about doing, it was clear I’m not doing enough either.
In that moment, my not enough was so big that I felt incredibly small.
In that moment, my gifts and callings and work paled in light of those with more around me.
Never mind that these were my friends. Godly women who love me and support me. Women who would never compare me unfavorably if they compared me at all. But it didn’t matter. I looked around and felt crushed by my not enough.
It’s easy sometimes isn’t it? It’s easy to forget that being enough isn’t about being qualified for someone else’s life, but about embracing our own. It’s being who we are created to be and doing what we are called to do.
The problem is, I lose sight of that sometimes when I’m surrounded by smart-er and funny-er and nice-er and pretty-er and everything-er. Comparison sneaks in and my “less than” gets multiplied and suddenly I’m not enough.
Here’s the thing: When we’re looking around, it keeps us from looking up.
In looking up, we see a God so lavish in his love for us that He gave His best to come into our worst. Since He didn’t hesitate to give us the extraordinary gift of His son before we knew we needed Him, can’t we trust Him to give us the enough that we need right now?
I know we can, but I can forget what enough looks like for me. Maybe you can too. Maybe you forget that your gifts are enough. Or that your story, your marriage, your body, your calling-it is all enough.
And when we know we are enough and we have enough, then we stop looking around and feeling less than.
We realize that God is extravagant with all his children, and His grace is big enough to encompass us all. And we decide to believe His words, “ ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ ”(2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV)
What an amazing God! He’s not disappointed by our not enough. Instead, He takes it and perfects it with his more than enough power. When I let this truth linger in my soul, I am filled with gratitude.
When I’m grateful, I stop living in the shadow of someone else’s enough and step into the beautiful reality of my own. Then, I become more fully who God created me to be. That is by no means perfect. But it is good. And I am satisfied that it is more than enough.
Oh sweet mamas and sisters, I hope today you’ll remember to look up instead of around. There you will see the One who created you and calls you the “apple of his eye” (Zechariah 2:8, NIV). He invites you to his abundant living. In Him, there is no scarcity. No scarce qualities, no scarce supply, and no scarce possibilities.
In Him, you lack nothing. You are more than enough. Believe it!