5 Intimate Things To Do With Your Husband
It’s easy to let the demands of kids, carpools, work, and daily life in general crowd out intimate moments with our husbands. We often hustle to get everything in order until there’s little left over when we’re finally alone together. And yet I think it’s a good bet to say that most of us really crave that closeness. We want to snuggle and talk and be completely free with our husbands, and yet we don’t carve out the time and energy to create an atmosphere that invites intimacy.
As for our men, they want it too. They long to be close because when they are, they fill their own deep need to feel adequate. They want to be “enough”, and intimate moments pave the way for those feelings.
As with anything else, it’s never going to “just happen”. Despite what we see in the movies, those moments are not automatic; they are created. Intimate feelings often follow intimate acts.
So here are 5 Intimate Things You Can Do With Your Spouse:
1—Take a shower with him.
Why do we stop this? It’s certainly not uncommon for newlyweds to shower together and yet, 10 years and 2 kids later, we almost never think of it. But why not? Make sure the kids are safe, lock the door, and lather up.
2—Give him a massage.
This may just be some lotion on a tired, shirtless hubby with the kids racing through the living room. Or it could be a locked bedroom door with oil and candles. Either way, it will invite closeness through the simple act of touch.
3—Cook together without the kids.
Pick a favorite meal, send the kids to grandma’s or at least upstairs to play, and get in the kitchen. There’s something about filling a man’s stomach that just works to warm his soul.
4—Write him a sexy note.
Don’t write him what you want to hear him say to you–write what he wants to hear. Tell him you want him. Slip a note in his hand on the way out the door or leave it in his car to find when he’s away. It will make him think about you all day. But, the catch here is, be willing to follow through on that sexy talk later ;-).
5—Book a hotel (and do all of the above 😉 ).
I failed at this when my children were younger, and we really missed out. Now I make it a point to plan a weekend away every now and then. Getting away from dirty dishes and laundry piles helps me relax and enjoy the little things with my husband. Save money, find a place with a hot tub, and date your man. You’ll be glad you did!
Intimacy is critical in our relationships. Yet we often starve it out because we don’t carve it out. Whether you have a strong relationship or one that’s limping along, choosing to make intimate moments a priority is a great investment. It can keep a great marriage on track and it can bring fresh life into a struggling one.