5 Things Great Moms Do
I don’t know about you but mothering is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And I’ve done some pretty crazy things! I don’t think it matters how prepared we were or what great example we had, it is still hard. I also think we all feel like we’re blowing it most of the time, rarely claiming “great mom” status.
I’ve spent much of my 22 years of parenting asking God to fix what I’ve messed up, mend what I’ve broken and help me figure it all out. We’re both still working at it. But throughout those 22 years, I’ve witnessed some great moms and I’ve taken notes. I’ve watched as these moms built strong relationships with their children into adulthood. I’ve watched their children become confident men and women who live their faith and love others. And I’ve seen these great moms who are diverse in personality and styles do some of the same things consistently.
Great moms aren’t perfect. They are moms who blow it and who have to ask for forgiveness. But they are moms who strive to do certain things well.
5 Things Great Moms Do:
1-Great moms value and enjoy their calling.
They don’t look at what so-and-so is doing and chase after her call. They do what is set before them at this moment in time, knowing it is specific to them, and they embrace all that it entails. Without that attitude, we can live in a state of frustration and disappointment. We will long for what we’re not intended to have (at least right now) and what God knows will never bring us what we think it will.
2-Great moms work to be flexible.
They know when the occasion needs to be met with grace rather than a formula. No children are exactly alike, and great moms recognize the need to adjust according. She will tweak her own style and response to suit the child’s disposition and circumstance. For instance, while a disrespectful tone must always be met with correction, how we respond should be different based on whether it stems from a strong-willed child who desires control or a tired one who desires a nap and just doesn’t realize it.
3-Great moms value the mountaintop but know how to live in the valleys.
Vision is more easily captured from the mountaintop, but it’s in the valleys that it’s carried out day to day. We may envision greatness and honor for our children, but someone still has to make the grilled cheese sandwich and wipe the toilet seat.
It was on the mountain that Moses saw and heard from God (Exodus 19). It was on the mountain that Peter, James, and John saw the transfigured Jesus (Matthew 17). But they couldn’t stay there. They had to come down the mountain, join the crowd, and get back to the trivial work of their ministry.
Our job is to bring heaven to earth for our children so that they can see God at work. We do that best when we value our time in His presence and bring the power of that time to our everyday lives.
4-Great moms learn from other great moms.
They don’t pretend to have it figured out or try to do it alone. They look to others who have gone before them for wisdom and sound advice. I am a firm believer that God is the greatest advice giver, but sometimes He uses people to deliver that advice. So I think it’s important to be balanced. I don’t want an attitude of “Don’t tell me how to raise my children,” or one of “Well, she said this so it must be right.”
5-Great moms rise to the challenge and push toward what they believe is right regardless of criticism or rejection.
I guarantee that you will be met with feelings of inferiority and intimidation, sometimes daily. But great moms move in faith and trust God to cover their weaknesses and mistakes. There will be those who are quick to tell you what you’re doing wrong, but great moms refuse to back down. Mind you, we’re not talking about refusing to hear advice, but rather once advice has been sought and a decision is made, moving forward despite obstacles and popular opinion.
Remember, there’s no such thing as a perfect mom, and it’s easier than we think to be a great one. If we love what we do, stay flexible in doing it, learn from God and other great moms, and stay at it no matter what, one day we will likely be as the Proverbs 31 woman whose “children stand and bless her” (verse 28 NLT).
Hugs to you, my great mom friends!